Archive | February, 2011

Dating sites, hmmmm.

27 Feb

Right, I did it. I set up a profile on a dating site. I’ve been pressured into it, so it wasn’t my choice 100%. I still like “the guy” and I really hope things will work out, but I am not going to sit around forever. Some of my friends have been on a dating site for a while. One friend found her boyfriend on there and another one is going on a first date with a (what seems to be) really nice guy. So no harm in having a look, right?

So, I set up my profile. And already I have quite a few “hits”, “fans” and guys who want to share pics. But if I want to see their pics, or share my pics, or even exchange messages, I have to pay 30 euros a month for a socalled VIP membership. Do I want to do that?

On one hand, I’m hesitant to do so. I pay a lot of money and then what? Am I really serious about finding someone on there? Or am I still too hung up on this other guy. Dilemma! On the other hand I think it’s a really good thing that people are paying on there. At least you know that the people on there are serious and willing to make an effort. Well, and you know they’re not skint, lol.

I haven’t made up my mind yet. Part of me is also very curious to see who’s contacting me. So I’ll probably just cave and pay for the minimum 3 month membership. I think… Or maybe not…

Maybe I should just join a convent!

To be continued…

So he does text back, now what?? Confusion galore!

19 Feb

No, I didn’t abandon the blog. My internet was out (again) so I haven’t been able to update. But hurrah, I’m back!

A while ago I wrote about the “why don’t men text back” question. Improvement there, because *gasp* ‘he’ texts back nowadays. Shocking, I know! So one less issue to be confused about. So is all good now? Of course not! That would be way too easy. In fact, I’m more confused than ever!

Here’s this guy. I like him. He’s sweet, funny, intelligent, good looking, caring and ambitious. And single! And straight! Yes, they do exist! We get along great and there’s definitely chemistry there. Others see that too. There’s always making eye contact, emailing, texting, chatting whenever we meet in the kitchen (we work on the same floor). So why aren’t we an item? Well first of all because I’m a chicken. I have a big mouth but in this case, I’m as shy as can be.

He’s really into the whole working out, bulking up kind of thing. He’s into looks, his and other people’s looks. And there’s the problem. I’m “full figured” as they say (sound so much nicer than overweight, don’t you think?) and I don’t think he can look beyond that. Mind you, that’s what I think, that’s in my head.

So am I assuming things and am I doing him injustice by thinking that he’s basically shallow? Because on the other hand, I really don’t see him like that. I feel totally comfortable around him, because I feel that I can be myself around him.

See why I’m confused here? A colleague who knows us both told me that she can tell he’s struggling with his feelings. That he really likes me and that we click and on the other hand there’s the pressure to go out with a slimmer woman. Her words: if I weighed less, we would be a couple right now, no doubt.

So I’m frustrated! I wish I weighed less, but with my medical issues I can diet all I want, it’s not doing a lot of good. On the other hand, I don’t want a guy who can’t accept me for who I am. But is that even the case? Or is that all in my head?

A friend of mine asked him why were not together. She told him that we belong together and that we need each other. He told her she has a really good point there. I can’t just deny that, can I?

I guess I’m going to have to build the courage to talk to him eventually. That’s the only way to find out if there’s a future for us.

in a nutshell

Sigh, men are hard work! To be continued!